The Power of Positive Thinking
Negative Thoughts: The Unwelcome Houseguests
Imagine enjoying a peaceful day at home, when suddenly the door flies open and in comes a crowd of unruly
people. They are loud, obnoxious, and condescending. They push past you as if you weren't there, heading to the
kitchen for something to eat, piling onto your sofa in front of your television, barging upstairs to take a nap in
your bed. You are so overwhelmed that you don't know how to react. They seem overbearing and headstrong, and even
though you may want to tell them to leave, you feel powerless to do so.
As the days wear on, they keep inviting more and more of their friends to stay also, until your home is cramped
and uncomfortable. They are with you in the shower, in your bed, while you eat your meals, in your car as you drive
to work. You feel that your life has been taken over by these barbarians, and you wonder when you lost control of
your life and your home.
Who are these creeps, you ask? They are negative thoughts. And they will take over your life if you don't
take control of them.
We often don't realize how overrun with negative thoughts we are until we become extremely uncomfortable, just
like the example above. Negative thoughts can be sneaky, slipping in undetected, yet having a powerful impact on
our moods and emotions. Over time, they will begin to take over our thoughts altogether.
Think about these scenarios, and see if you recognize yourself in any of them:
- Your spouse is 30 minutes late coming home from work, and suddenly the telephone rings. Do you immediately
imagine the worst? Does your heart start racing at the thought of an accident?
- You apply for a great job and feel excited by the possibilities. A few days go by, and you don't receive a
phone call requesting an interview. Do you begin worrying about errors you might have made on the application, or
whether your skills are up to par? Do you assume that you won't get the job, and resign yourself to a low-paying,
unfulfilling career for the rest of your life?
- You're driving in fast-moving traffic, and you see a large truck approaching from the opposite direction. Do
you automatically begin feeling anxious that the truck could veer over to your lane and crush your compact car -
even though the driver of the truck has given you no indication that this is a possibility?
These examples demonstrate how easily our thoughts can move into a negative place. It's actually quite common,
so don't despair if you identify with these situations. There IS something you can do about it.
It's important to point out that these examples reflect situations that are completely out of our control. Even
if they did happen, there isn't much we could do about it. We'd simply have to deal with it, just as we do with all
of life's challenges. Obsessing over the horrible things that could happen to us only makes us feel powerless and
What if we choose to turn our thoughts around and focus on happy things instead? We can, you know! That doesn't
mean negative thoughts will never pop into our heads, of course. They probably will. But we don't have to allow
them to stay. Just like our unruly houseguests described above, we need to be firm and unyeilding about the types
of thoughts we want to welcome in.
So, what can we do when frightening images pop into our heads? In my opinion, the best course of action would be
to kick them right out again. Don't entertain them. Simply turn the thought around to something positive (or at
least neutral) instead.
Rather than assuming your spouse is late because of an accident, assume he or she is late because of heavy
traffic, a last minute request from the boss, or a quick stop at the supermarket. Rather than assuming you didn't
get the job, assume that it will take time for the hiring manager to get through all the applications. Acknowledge
that even if you didn't get this particular job, there are plenty more great jobs out there if you take time to
look for them. And yes, rather than assuming you'll be killed by a large truck, assume you WON'T be.
Turning these thoughts around will take time and consistent effort, especially if you are used to letting them
take over your mind. Remember that unwelcome houseguests don't usually respond to subtlety. You may need to display
immense determination and kick some major butt before they will leave. But if you keep at it, they will eventually
grow weary of the hostile atmosphere and leave you in peace.
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